September 30th, 2014

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Family’s beliefs obstacle to relationship

By Ellie Tesher on September 30th, 2014

Q: So I really like this dude, and I have for almost two years, but he’s mixed race and I’m white. I have a Southern American family who hate it when they see couples that aren’t the same race. They’ve said they’d disown me if I ever fell... Read More »

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Fantasy is OK, but not obsession

By Ellie Tesher on September 25th, 2014

Q: I’m 30, married with two children, and met a man on a plane whom I cannot forget. I was travelling to meet my husband who was working out-of-town. The man seated beside me was handsome, charming, funny and also married. We talked and laughed throughout the flight... Read More »

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Mother’s woes affecting trust in son

By Ellie Tesher on September 24th, 2014

Q: I’ve been in a 13-year relationship, living together for six. My partner’s son, now 20, lives with his mother. He’s stayed with us every other weekend, less since he’s older. His mother’s single, has another child from another relationship, and has a gambling problem. She’s moved and... Read More »

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Will distance take a toll on relationship?

By Ellie Tesher on September 23rd, 2014

Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, mostly long distance. We’re wonderful as lovers and best friends. We listen to each other’s side of a conflict, and find a solution together. We’re still young (he’s 23, I’m 20) and inexperienced, but we see... Read More »

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Boyfriend has reasons for pulling back from relationship

By Ellie Tesher on September 20th, 2014

Q: I’ve been separated for over a year, and my divorce will be finalized imminently. I was seeing someone awhile but it wasn’t serious. I wanted time to recover from the emotional trauma that my ex-husband had put me through. Then, when I felt healed, I met a... Read More »

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No point in a confrontation with DIL

By Ellie Tesher on September 19th, 2014

Q: Our widowed son remarried three years ago, becoming stepfather to two more children. All four children are currently late teens and early 20s. Our new daughter-in-law initially exclaimed that we’d see them as much as possible. In three years, that’s been once at our house (albeit three... Read More »

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Couple needs counselling to work on differences

By Ellie Tesher on September 16th, 2014

Q: My spouse and I have been together for 12 years, married for seven. We have a toddler and another child coming. I share thoughts and feelings, am reflective, willing to apologize, and seek her input regarding future planning, parenting, finances, etc. She protects her personal affairs. She... Read More »

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Readers offer insight into sexual relationships

By Ellie Tesher on September 13th, 2014

Part Two from my online chat, Sex in Relationships, Aug. 13: Q: My wife and I had an active, happy, sex life through our years of dating and early marriage. But she’s changed (we’re late-30s, two young children). We both work. However, the children are in daycare when... Read More »

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Readers talk about sex in relationships

By Ellie Tesher on September 12th, 2014

From my online chat, Sex in Relationships, Aug. 13: Q: When my boyfriend of two years and I dated, he couldn’t have enough sex, it was every night that we were together. He moved in with me four months ago, when he got laid off at work, and... Read More »

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Blindsided by divorce talk

By Ellie Tesher on September 11th, 2014

Q: My wife filed for divorce three months ago. We have three kids and are living together until we finalize financial matters, housing, etc. Once done, shortly, I’ll leave. Four weeks ago, she took our kids camping and told them that Mommy and Daddy are divorcing. She did... Read More »

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