September 19th, 2014

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No point in a confrontation with DIL

By Ellie Tesher on September 19th, 2014

Q: Our widowed son remarried three years ago, becoming stepfather to two more children. All four children are currently late teens and early 20s. Our new daughter-in-law initially exclaimed that we’d see them as much as possible. In three years, that’s been once at our house (albeit three... Read More »

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Couple needs counselling to work on differences

By Ellie Tesher on September 16th, 2014

Q: My spouse and I have been together for 12 years, married for seven. We have a toddler and another child coming. I share thoughts and feelings, am reflective, willing to apologize, and seek her input regarding future planning, parenting, finances, etc. She protects her personal affairs. She... Read More »

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Readers offer insight into sexual relationships

By Ellie Tesher on September 13th, 2014

Part Two from my online chat, Sex in Relationships, Aug. 13: Q: My wife and I had an active, happy, sex life through our years of dating and early marriage. But she’s changed (we’re late-30s, two young children). We both work. However, the children are in daycare when... Read More »

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Readers talk about sex in relationships

By Ellie Tesher on September 12th, 2014

From my online chat, Sex in Relationships, Aug. 13: Q: When my boyfriend of two years and I dated, he couldn’t have enough sex, it was every night that we were together. He moved in with me four months ago, when he got laid off at work, and... Read More »

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Blindsided by divorce talk

By Ellie Tesher on September 11th, 2014

Q: My wife filed for divorce three months ago. We have three kids and are living together until we finalize financial matters, housing, etc. Once done, shortly, I’ll leave. Four weeks ago, she took our kids camping and told them that Mommy and Daddy are divorcing. She did... Read More »

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Show support for son’s decisions

By Ellie Tesher on September 10th, 2014

Q: My son married a woman who badmouths everything about his life when growing up, which I find insulting. It seems that the fact that we were affluent enough to have a nice home, and pay for his university education, apparently means we “spoiled” him. She’s from a... Read More »

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Woman fears friend having affair with married man

By Ellie Tesher on September 9th, 2014

Q: I think my single friend is having an affair with a married man. I haven’t asked her outright because unless she wants to tell me about it, I feel that her personal life is none of my business. But I love my friend and want nothing except... Read More »

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Know the issues if you want a divorce

By Ellie Tesher on September 6th, 2014

Q- I’ve been married for 15 years and have one child whom we love dearly. My wife is a nice woman and we have a very cordial relationship; we’re friends. But something’s missing. I can’t say anything bad about her; I just no longer feel anything towards her... Read More »

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Learn legal rights in possible separation

By Ellie Tesher on September 5th, 2014

Q- My husband of 25 years accumulated large debt, always borrowing money just to get by. He constantly arbitrarily buys big-ticket items we don’t need. I learn about his purchases from friends! I find that degrading, insulting, and embarrassing – something we’ve fought about since we married. As... Read More »

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Too focused on perfection

By Ellie Tesher on September 4th, 2014

Q- As a young gay man, I’m unsure how to handle certain questions I’m asked socially e.g. why I choose not to date, why I’m not using queer hook-up apps, and why I don’t put myself out there. The truth is, at 22, I’ve made the conscious decision... Read More »

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