October 24th, 2014

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Need for female attention costly

By Ellie Tesher on October 24th, 2014

Q: I had early trust issues with my boyfriend of two-and-a-half years. He has a lot of girlfriends, or girls in general, that he constantly texts and calls He even complained that after nine-plus years with his last girlfriend, that she still didn’t trust him. I’ve started to... Read More »

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Wife’s mental health issues too much to bear

By Ellie Tesher on October 21st, 2014

Q: My wife of eight years has mental health issues. She and her family covered them up when we were dating; I just thought she was eccentric. Her diagnosis is borderline personality disorder. We now have a daughter, six, who’s in school full-time, but my wife still needs... Read More »

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Therapy can help rebuild confidence

By Ellie Tesher on October 18th, 2014

Q: I’m married to a man I don’t respect and feel discomfort staying with him. Basically, I don’t like the way he tells his adult children (from two previous partners) whatever they want to hear. dislike that he urges me to tolerate their hurtful behaviour towards me as... Read More »

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Old player makes young woman feel special

By Ellie Tesher on October 11th, 2014

Q: I’ve known this man for eight years, as a customer. He always seemed to look out for me. He financed my vehicle, and helped me relocate my business. He’d always offer his advice, as a friend and my mentor. I’m 45; he’s 70. We flirt and banter... Read More »

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Messy situation repairable

By Ellie Tesher on October 10th, 2014

Q: We’ve been together one year. He cooks and can fix anything. He’s very smart and a hard worker. He’s capable of apologizing and is very connected emotionally. We don’t live together but I split my week between my home and his. The problem? He’s what I consider... Read More »

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Chat generates commitment talk

By Ellie Tesher on October 4th, 2014

From my online chat of Sept. 10, Commitment Fears: Q: My fiancŽe has cancelled our wedding plans twice. Once it was a legitimate excuse because her dad was ill and would possibly not be able to walk her down the aisle. I said that was a reason to... Read More »

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Separation doesn’t have to mean marriage is over

By Ellie Tesher on October 3rd, 2014

Q: My wife and I separated this past summer. We’d had difficulties for years. When we told the kids, my daughter reacted strongly and took her anger out on me. I had a bad feeling the moment they left – that I should’ve run after them, told them... Read More »

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‘Open’ relationship may result in collateral damage

By Ellie Tesher on October 1st, 2014

Q: I’m female, 27, and have been in an open relationship with my main partner for four years. During two years of that time, I’ve also been seeing a married man for a strictly sexual relationship of which my main partner is totally aware and he participates in... Read More »

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Family’s beliefs obstacle to relationship

By Ellie Tesher on September 30th, 2014

Q: So I really like this dude, and I have for almost two years, but he’s mixed race and I’m white. I have a Southern American family who hate it when they see couples that aren’t the same race. They’ve said they’d disown me if I ever fell... Read More »

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Fantasy is OK, but not obsession

By Ellie Tesher on September 25th, 2014

Q: I’m 30, married with two children, and met a man on a plane whom I cannot forget. I was travelling to meet my husband who was working out-of-town. The man seated beside me was handsome, charming, funny and also married. We talked and laughed throughout the flight... Read More »

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