July 28th, 2014

Ask Ellie

Crying natural reaction after seeing ex-beau

By Ellie Tesher on July 26th, 2014

Q: Recently, my ex-boyfriend came into my workplace, with his girlfriend. I hadn’t seen him since our break-up four years ago, and loathed the thought of ever seeing him again. I didn’t notice him at first and, initially addressed his companion (who was gorgeous). Once I realized that... Read More »

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Cowardice can’t define the future

By Ellie Tesher on July 25th, 2014

Following are leftover questions from my online chat, “How to Leave a Lover,” of July 2: Q: My wife of 18 years never said she was unhappy with our marriage, she’d never told me what she wanted me to change. She just left one day, filed for divorce... Read More »

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Gay men seek continuity in their relationships

By Ellie Tesher on July 19th, 2014

Dear Readers: Following are two leftover questions from my online chat on same-sex relationships (June 25): Q: I’m a gay male whose longtime partner passed away over 18 months ago. I’m just now emerging from my isolation and sadness, and would like to start dating someone who’s near... Read More »

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Anger gives a clue

By Ellie Tesher on July 18th, 2014

Q: I’m a woman, 38, whose same-sex partner seems to be spending a lot more time with her female co-worker, though she swears the other woman is straight and nothing’s going on. But I feel they’re having an emotional affair and it hurts me just as much. ... Read More »

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If relationship has to be secret, it’s the wrong person

By Ellie Tesher on July 15th, 2014

Q: I got a job with a friend who was in a two-month relationship with the manager. Right away, they fought and the manager and I started talking more. She got a new job. As soon as they broke up, we hung out and had sex. I felt... Read More »

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Age chasm could be issue

By Ellie Tesher on July 12th, 2014

Q: I’m a smart, happy, fashionable girl in high school, just turned 16. My boyfriend of two months is 43. We met at the mall. I disagree that a secret relationship’s hiding something. My parents are highly educated professionals, so is my boyfriend. But we’re secret because society... Read More »

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Lack of sex causing rift

By Ellie Tesher on July 8th, 2014

Q: My wife and I met eight years ago, married for six years, second marriage for both. She brought a son whom I love very much; my three daughters are all married, have full-time jobs, their own homes, and I have four grandchildren so far. My wife’s 44,... Read More »

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Couples need to help their kids adapt

By Ellie Tesher on July 5th, 2014

Q: I’ve fallen in love with my husband’s best friend. Neither he nor I could stop it because our feelings are so powerful. He and my husband have been friends for years, but are very different. I think I was attracted to the same thing in both -... Read More »

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Guilt holds boyfriend hostage

By Ellie Tesher on July 4th, 2014

Q: I’m in a four-year relationship with a man I love. I’m mid-40s; we both have good jobs, and share many interests. It’s the best relationship I’ve known. The one major negative has been his ex-wife’s stubborn refusal to complete their divorce. She holds him hostage to... Read More »

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Cheated-on wife must focus on her well-being

By Ellie Tesher on July 2nd, 2014

Q: After a decade of marriage, I could no longer accept my husband’s excuses when I suspected some trust issues. I’ve finally confronted, and had confirmation from him, that he’s repeatedly cheated on me. I’m mid-30s, and was recently diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. With the added stress of... Read More »

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